Many people are so ashamed of being abused that they will not tell even their closest friends. The abuser often isolates the victim or threatens them with harm if they do tell anyone.
It Is Not Your Fault
We've heard the phrase "You made me do it", or "You pushed my buttons." Usually the abuser blames the victim for the abuse, guilt tripping the victim. This is the number one cause for lower self-image in victims. Abuse is never the fault of the victim; people are always responsible for their own actions.
If It Feels Scary, It's Abuse
If you are treated in a way that feels scary or uncomfortable to you, then it's abuse. If your instincts tell you somethings wrong, there IS something wrong. Don't doubt yourself - trust your feelings, and get help.